Chance Glance!

Nekocchi
22 Slovakia INFP
A girl who got lost in a nightmare and, using her own blood, she tried to change it into paradise.
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I’m shy, awkward and clumsy. Short somehow-human who loves to hug people but is mostly too insecure to do so. So, cuddles dogs and cats instead.

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Pseudolonewolf
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I'd like to ramble a bit about why I made this site, and what's for.

As a very introverted person who's left school, I find it hard to find like minds. I've tried joining other internet communities, but I find it hard to really find meaningful connections because people rarely talk about their inner thoughts or feelings... I avoid Facebook because I essentially have no life, no real world friends (after moving country), few connections, and so on, which would make being on a site that's all about those things highly uncomfortable. I've talked to other people in similar positions who feel the same, and they feel lost and lonely and don't know where to turn.

I've even got so desperate as to try dating sites before, in the hopes of meeting someone I could get along with, but the way that they function isn't to my taste at all. Everyone just writes about themselves in the same way, talking about how 'laid-back' and 'easy-going' and 'fun' and 'sexy' they are and so on, mentioning their introversion apologetically with "I'm shy at first, but I open up!!" if they even mention it at all.

It feels like an extroverted world, anyway, and I for one struggle in it.

Rather than just sitting around moping, though, for the last couple of years I've tried to make websites specifically designed for people who are in this position, as I am. Various reasons (mostly MY PROBLEMS, wah!!) prevented me from really going anywhere with them... but a significant change in my life recently rekindled my desire to run a place like this. And I hope to do a better job of it this time!

The site took its inspiration from dating sites and social networks like Facebook, though I've included features that I personally would have loved to see on those sites while omitting or minimising things that put me off them. It's essentially the sort of place I've always wanted to find!

I just hope that somebody else can get something out of it too!

It's important that people actually write things about themselves, though, and I imagine this might be tricky at first because, well, every community has to start somewhere, and I imagine the first few members will be quiet and hesitant because there won't be much reason to invest time and effort in filling out their profile or sharing their thoughts here with complete strangers...

Still, I hope that we can slowly build up something meaningful that focuses on our feelings, our thoughts... A place where long comments are valued rather than criticised, where talking about feelings or problems is met with support rather than ignored or attacked, and where introversion is seen as a virtue - or at the very least an acceptable way to be - rather than something that needs to be covered with a mask out of shame.

Thoughts don't need to be long, rambling things like this one! Even tweet-length things are fine, if you have something on your mind that you want to share. Ideally, though, you'll focus on what's going on in your mind rather than what you just *did*... so something like "I wonder whether we'll meet aliens in our lifetime" or "It really bothers me when people are rude", rather than "just got back from a wild party lol".

I don't know how many people are actually used to writing out their thoughts in this way, though. I know that I struggle to find other people who do this in the way that I do. I suppose it'll just take time to establish an environment where it's clear what kind of posts are acceptable.

Anyway! Ramble ramble! I'll end this now and maybe open the doors to this place today and hope for the best...!
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Pseudolonewolf
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This is the very first post on this site! Hooray!

I still have some things to test, then I suppose I'll open this place up to the public... I've no idea how that'll go. I really hope that the site can be of some use to at least someone, but I'm dreading it becoming a ghost town before long. I'll at least try to do my part to make sure that doesn't happen.

I suppose I'll use this thoughts thing myself a bit so then it can serve as an example of what it's meant to be used for!